Women of the baby boomer generation know and trust Iris Krasnow as a writer who speaks candidly to the issues that concern them most. Read more...
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Women of the baby boomer generation know and trust Iris Krasnow as a writer who speaks candidly to the issues that concern them most. In the months following the publication of her most recent book, "The Secret Lives of Wives," Krasnow addressed thousands of women, and she discovered that two subjects dominated her audiences' conversations: sex and change. Whether women are worried about marriage and divorce or illness and death, they're all asking: "How do I handle the shifts in my sexuality caused by these events?" "Sex After . . ." holds the answers to everything from regaining sexual confidence after childbirth and breast cancer to navigating the dating scene in senior communities.
As with all of Krasnow's books since her "New York Times" bestseller "Surrendering to Marriage," the narrative is driven by real women's stories: raw, intimate, and, most importantly, true. Prescriptive, emancipating, and insightful, "Sex After . . . "addresses a range of circumstances, including what happens:
When you or your spouse doesn't want sex anymore After cancer, amputation, PTSD, or another illness maims the body If you come out of the closet at middle age When your marriage is damaged by adultery If you're dating again after twenty-five years with the same sexual partner When your husband is addicted to Viagra
Filled with edgy and honest stories of carnal challenge and triumph from women of all backgrounds and life stages, "Sex After . . . "is Krasnow's signature take on "Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sex but Were Afraid to Ask--"during all of life's passages. Krasnow is a media and lecture tour favorite, and readers--whether in the heat of an initial can't-eat-can't-sleep attraction or rounding the corner to their sixtieth anniversary--will applaud her eye-opening perspectives on the one issue that can change lives for better or worse like nothing else.
Publishers Weekly® Reviews
- Reviewed in: Publishers Weekly, page .
- Review Date: 2013-12-02
- Reviewer: Staff
Krasnow (The Secret Lives of Wives) shares the experiences of women—and a few men—to demonstrate how sexual experiences change over the years. The author is a knowledgeable guide who shows great respect to the variety of life circumstances and aims to put readers at ease. Four sections work through the different stages in a person’s sexual life. Starting with a discussion about casual sex and “friends with benefits,” 20-somethings describe the feelings of empowerment that come with developing and following their own rules. Women talk about the joys and difficulties of life after childbirth, from feelings of deep connection to suffering feelings of post-partum depression and ugliness. Included is a section on sex after infidelity—from the perspectives of both those who have cheated and those who have been cheated on—as well as a discussion of sex after disease and injury. The final section covers sex for older individuals. Because Krasnow includes a vast number of people at different stages of their lives, there is something relatable for everyone and many opportunities to gain new knowledge as one moves through life. (Feb.)
Love, and all that jazz
As Valentine’s Day draws nigh, our thoughts turn to romance. These three books explore dating and relating from a variety of viewpoints.
Any woman who’s tired of relatives, friends and co-workers who ask, “Why are you still single?” will appreciate Sara Eckel’s It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single. The author—who writes the New York Times “Modern Love” column—has penned a smart, I’ve-got-your-back debunking of the most common remarks made to unmarried women, especially those 30ish and older. Eckel, who married at 39, believes that being unmarried is due to one simple thing: not having met the right person. But after being told that she and her single friends were too needy, unrealistic or picky, she wondered why this blame-assigning mindset is so prevalent. One reason, she writes: “We’re a nation that believes strongly in personal efficacy—if there’s something in your life that isn’t working quite the way you’d like, then the problem must begin and end with you.” That myth shows up in all 27 of the wrong reasons Eckel explores, from “You’re Too Intimidating” to “You Should Have Married That Guy.” Eckel encourages readers to push aside the naysaying, enjoy life as it is right now and remember that the question isn’t why you’re single, it’s “why are near strangers so often compelled to demand answers?”
GEEKS OF ENDEARMENT
Eric Smith’s The Geek’s Guide to Dating is a pop-culture compendium of advice for dating, with clever geek lingo and analogies galore. Smith (founder of the website Geekadelphia) offers sound tips for readers who spend so much time behind their computers that they haven’t learned the nuances of courtship. Topics include Selecting Your Character (identifying your interests and strengths), Search Optimization (where to meet geeks) and Building a Bulletproof Wardrobe (no LED belt buckles, please). Smith’s advice is straightforward, whether reminding readers to approach others with respect or suggesting that they “Start a conversation, not a debate.” Fun illustrations, plus charts, lists and what-if scenarios add to the good-hearted guidance. May the force be with you.
FOR MATURE AUDIENCES
There’s girl-talk, and then there’s Sex After . . . Women Share How Intimacy Changes as Life Changes, a no-topic-is-taboo collection gleaned from interviews with 150 women ages 20-something to 80-something (and a few men, too). Iris Krasnow, author of the popular The Secret Lives of Wives, specializes in writing about women’s relationships. In Sex After . . ., she wanted to go beyond stereotypes and explore what real women are experiencing: “And may that truth release you into becoming your authentic and fullest sexual self, after the honeymoon, after cancer, after boredom, after divorce, after wrinkles—until death do you part.” She alternates well-researched passages full of relevant statistics and quotes with frank stories about sex after major life events such as childbirth, illness, infidelity and more. While 20-somethings are enjoying “hooking-up culture,” Krasnow notes that young ladies aren’t the only ones having fun. She also finds “rocking grandmothers who attend Tantric sex workshops and are as lusty as teenagers.” Those skeptical of Krasnow’s assertion that, in the realm of sex, “the 70s are the new 40s” surely will change their minds after reading this lusty litany.