Laura Doyle s marriage was in trouble. After five years, her husband had become distant and seemed checked out of their relationship, preferring watching TV to making love. Read more...
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Laura Doyle s marriage was in trouble. After five years, her husband had become distant and seemed checked out of their relationship, preferring watching TV to making love. There were frequent fights that ended with tense silences. Marriage counseling made their problems worseeach session seemed to reinforce the feeling that she and her husband were just too far apart.
Desperate to avoid divorcing the man she loved, Laura tried something different: she started talking to happily married women, some for more than 15 years. What she discovered shocked her.
Everything she had heard in marriage counseling was wrong. Laura realized there are basic truths that can help women maintain loving, intimate marriages, such as:
The happiness of your relationship is up to you
What men want most of all is to be treated with respect. Treat your man with respect (even if you aren t feeling it), and he will treat you with love and care.
Your man wants to know he has your trust. Give it to him, and he ll realize you are special . . . because you will be
After seeing her own marriage transform, Laura set out to help other women do the same. In First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors, you ll learn Laura s Six Intimacy Skills, which have been used by over 150,000 women who have turned their unhappy marriages into blissful unions.
First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors will put you on the path to having the sweet, satisfying marriage you want with the man you love
Publishers Weekly® Reviews
- Reviewed in: Publishers Weekly, page .
- Review Date: 2015-05-04
- Reviewer: Staff
Happiness and satisfaction in heterosexual marriages are up to the wives, relationship coach Doyle insists, because it is women who hold the power to effect change in relationships. Thus, her book, as well as the relationship coaching practice it comes out of, is for women only—no couples, no men. She disdains marriage counselors because, after a frustrating time sitting beside her husband on a therapist’s couch, she decided that the profession was populated with “wounded healers,” simultaneously realizing that the best advice she’d encountered came from women in successful, long-term marriages. The book opens with a quiz to identify problems, proceeding to the “Six Intimacy Skills” whereby couples can recapture the qualities that drew them together originally. To achieve Doyle’s “spouse-fulfilling prophecy,” a wife acknowledges what she wants and, employing the Six Skills, empowers herself to cede fear-based control, restore her husband’s self-respect, receive more help by doing less, admit to vulnerability, and exhibit gratitude more often, ideally resulting in a changed husband—and marriage—potentially in a matter of weeks. This upbeat, contemporary iteration of the author’s matrimony model (first seen in her 2001 bestseller The Surrendered Wife) may help women achieve higher levels of intimacy and stronger partnerships. Agent: Jill Marr, Dijkstra Literary Agency. (June)