When Kids Call the Shots : How to Seize Control from Your Darling Bully -- And Enjoy Being a Parent Again
Overview - Rebellious, entitled, disrespectful, many kids pummel their parents with demands, and boss them around with impunity. Experts might label them "difficult" and advise how to "fix" them. But parenting struggles rarely originate from just one side. Read more...
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Rebellious, entitled, disrespectful, many kids pummel their parents with demands, and boss them around with impunity. Experts might label them "difficult" and advise how to "fix" them. But parenting struggles rarely originate from just one side. Instead, they erupt at the volatile intersection of a child's personality with a parent's own insecurities and behaviors. Fixing the child requires fixing yourself. In When Kids Call the Shots
, therapist and parenting expert Sean Grover untangles the forces driving family dysfunction, and helps parents assume leadership roles. With a liberating message and perceptive advice, the book explores: Three common bullying styles (defiant, manipulative, anxious) used by kids - Parenting styles (guilt-prone, anxiety-fueled, fix-everything) that contribute to power imbalances - Critical testing periods in a child's development - Coping mechanisms that backfire - Personalized plans for calmly exerting authority in any scenario - And more Caving in to tantrums and threats breeds more of the same. Learn to stop the cycle of abusive behavior and make parenting a pleasure again.
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Psychotherapist Grover pulls no punches in this parenting manual, labeling out-of-control children and teens as bullies and identifying the parents they mistreat as victims. He categorizes child bullying styles (defiant, manipulative, anxious) and unproductive parenting styles (guilty, anxious, fix-everything). He also provides a helpful map of the interactions that can lead to the escalation of bullying, from developmentally normal behaviors like boundary-testing to crisis situations such as illness, divorce, and unrecognized learning issues. Grover breaks down the basics of healthy emotional development, including self-esteem, structure, and role models. He challenges parents to better communicate with their children while also practicing improved self-care and examining their own family histories, mental landscapes, and coping mechanisms. Overall, Grover’s empowering, motivating approach is highly compassionate to suffering, burnt-out parents without letting them off the hook for becoming self-aware adults who can make consciously better choices for themselves and their children. Agent: Carol Mann, Carol Mann Agency. (June)