Everyone has an opinion, anecdote, or horror story about women and work. Now the acclaimed author of What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast shows how real working women with families are actually making the most of their time.Read more...
Everyone has an opinion, anecdote, or horror story about women and work. Now the acclaimed author of What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast shows how real working women with families are actually making the most of their time.
Having it all has become the subject of countless books, articles, debates, and social media commentary, with passions running high in all directions. Many now believe this to be gospel truth: Any woman who wants to advance in a challenging career has to make huge sacrifices. She s unlikely to have a happy marriage, quality time with her kids (assuming she can have kids at all), a social life, hobbies, or evena decent night s sleep.
But what if balancing work and family is actually not as hard as it s made out to be? What if all those tragic anecdotes ignore the women who quietly but consistently do just fine with the juggle?
Instead of relying on scattered stories, time management expert Laura Vanderkam set out to add hard data to the debate. She collected hour-by-hour time logs from 1,001 days in the lives of women who make at least $100,000 a year. And she found some surprising patterns in how these women spend the 168 hours that every one of us has each week.
Overall, these women worked less and slept more than they assumed they did before they started
tracking their time. They went jogging or to the gym, played with their children, scheduled date nights with their significant others, and had luncheswith friends. They made time for the things that gave them pleasure and meaning, fitting the pieces togetherlike tiles in a mosaic without adhering to overlyrigid schedules that would eliminate flexibilityand spontaneity.
Vanderkam shares specific strategies that her subjects use to make time for the things that really matter to them. For instance, they . . .
* Work split shifts (such as seven hours at work, four off, then another two at night from home). This allows them to see their kids without falling behindprofessionally.
* Get creative about what counts as quality family time. Breakfasts together and morning story time count as much as daily family dinners, and they re often easier to manage.
* Take it easy on the housework. You can free up a lot of time by embracing the philosophy of good enough and getting help from other members of your household(or a cleaning service).
* Guard their leisure time. Full weekend getaways may be rare, but many satisfying hobbies can be done in small bursts of time. An hour of crafting feels better than an hour of reality TV.
With examples from hundreds of real women, Vanderkamproves that you don t have to give up on the things you really want. I Know How She Does It will inspire you to build a life that works, one hour at a time.
- ISBN-13: 9781591847328
- ISBN-10: 159184732X
- Publisher: Portfolio
- Publish Date: June 2015
- Page Count: 304
- Dimensions: 9.3 x 6.2 x 1 inches
- Shipping Weight: 1 pounds
Publishers Weekly® Reviews
- Reviewed in: Publishers Weekly, page .
- Review Date: 2015-04-27
- Reviewer: Staff
Vanderkam (168 Hours) lays out an in-depth critique of an assumption central to the ongoing “having it all” debate about the work-life balance for women: that there is never enough time, and that conflict and exhaustion are inevitable. Wanting real data on how women spend their days and manage multiple responsibilities, she launched the Mosaic Project, “a time diary study of 1,001 days in the lives of professional women.” Vanderkam had two criteria for subjects: each woman had to earn more than $100,000 per year and have at least one minor child living in her home. Through dozens of stories and excerpts from subjects’ time diaries, she raises some significant challenges to the narrative of overworked, miserable professional women and questions the idea that happiness can be found only in a stress-free life. Vanderkam is upfront about her singular focus on upper-middle-class women, but for that audience, her advice on carefully rethinking how your time is spent and being present for moments in your life is solid, thought-provoking, and substantive. Readers will find it heartening to see the trope of the frenzied, unhappy career woman trying desperately to “have it all” challenged in such detail. (June)