Imagine if every time you praise your child with "Good job " you're actually doing harm? Read more...
Imagine if every time you praise your child with "Good job " you're actually doing harm? Or that urging a child to say "Can you say thank you?" is exactly the wrong way to go about teaching manners? Jennifer Lehr is a smart, funny, and fearless writer who "takes everything you thought you knew about parenting and turns it on its ear" (Jennifer Jason Leigh).
Backing up her lively writing and arguments with research from psychologists, educators, and organizations like Alfie Kohn, Thomas Gordon, and R.I.E. (Resources for Infant Educarers), Ms. Lehr offers a conscious approach to parenting based on respect and love for the child as an individual.
- ISBN-13: 9780761181514
- ISBN-10: 0761181512
- Publisher: Workman Publishing
- Publish Date: January 2017
- Page Count: 272
- Dimensions: 8.1 x 5.4 x 0.9 inches
- Shipping Weight: 0.85 pounds
Publishers Weekly® Reviews
- Reviewed in: Publishers Weekly, page .
- Review Date: 2016-10-03
- Reviewer: Staff
Though Lehrs (The Magic Cake) parenting guide is uneven, it contains at least one invaluable insight. She writes: If a child isnt responding to a reasonable request, then their behavior must be meeting a more pressing need. She asks parents to give their childs behavior the time and respect it deserves and then ask: what is that need? It is a profound message, rather buried in a book that can have the 15 Things Not to Say to Your Kids feel of its blogger origins. Such formulas can be useful; parents who read this may think twice before showering children with be carefuls and good jobs and limiting their childs self-calibration for risk and reward. Lehr has synthesized massive amount of parenting information and tested it on daughter Jules and son Hudson. Her advice can have a condescending tone, but its still (mostly) good advice. At worst, the final chapters suggestion that the criminal justice system might incentivize better parenting skillsby more stringently policing parents who use corporal punishmentis downright misguided. Yet the book contains enough gems and good reminders to make it a worthwhile read for the diligent parent. Agent: Susan Golomb, Writers House. (Jan.)