In Stand Strong Nick Vujicic gives you strategies for developing a "bully defense system" so you can handle bullies of all kinds, by building your strength from the inside out.
With no arms, no legs, and no defense , Nick Vujicic has experienced bullying of all kinds for being "different." He knows what it feels like to be picked on and pushed around.Read more...
- Publisher: Penguin Random House Audio Publishing Gr
- Date: Apr 2014
From the book
I am a bully's dream, no doubt about it.
No arms. No legs. No defense.
Born without limbs for reasons never determined, I was blessed in so many other ways. My greatest blessing was a loving and supportive family. They sheltered and encouraged me for the first years of my life. But once I left the protective shelter
of family for the hallways and playgrounds of elementary school, I felt like I had a target on my chest that said, "Bullies, aim here."
I felt alone in my fear of bullies, but I wasn't alone. And neither are you.
If you've been bullied, the first thing you need to understand is that their attacks, taunts, and mean acts aren't really about you, any flaws you might have, or anything you might have done. Bullies have their own issues. They pick on you to make themselves feel better, to vent their anger, to feel more powerful, or even because they can't think of anything else to do.
I know it's lame, but it's true.
When I was a teenager, I wasted a lot of time trying to figure out why bullies picked on me. There was one guy in particular who really got inside my head. He bullied everybody, but for some reason I took it personally. I obsessed over his motives.
Finally I realized that his bullying wasn't about my problems. It was about his.
You may have a bully who has had the same impact on you, getting inside your head, knotting your stomach with stress, and tormenting your dreams because you can't figure out why you are the target. I'm here to ease your mind and lighten that burden.
Your bully's motives don't matter. You do.
Your safety and your happiness are important to me and everyone else who loves and cares about you; so instead of focusing on why a bully is picking on you, let's focus on helping you feel secure and happy again.
Does that sound like a plan? I think so!
But before we move on, I want you to know that there is no single infallible strategy for dealing one-on-one with bullies. And I certainly don't recommend you resort to violence if you can help it! Don't ever let a bully lure you into a fight. If a bully attacks you, defend yourself but get away as fast as you can. If you have any reason to think a bully is going to harm you physically, you need to talk to an adult who can help you before that happens.
The Bullying Epidemic
It's important to understand from the beginning that many people share your pain in dealing with this problem. Being bullied, sadly, is as common as catching a cold or stubbing your toe. I travel all over the world talking to young people about this issue. No matter where I go, bullying is a major topic of concern. Teens in every school in every town and every country tell me they have mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual pain because of being bullied.
A teen in China told me that he'd tried to commit suicide eight times because of being bullied at school. A cute little Korean girl in Boise, Idaho, came up to me crying after I gave a speech on bullying. She said, "I get teased every day about being Korean because I'm the only Asian in the whole school." I hear similar stories from bullying victims in Chile, Brazil, Australia, Russia, Serbia, and around the world. Bullying is everywhere, and it takes many forms. Most of us are familiar with childhood bullies who threaten to beat us up, make fun of us, or turn friends against us. Adults may experience bullying in the form of sexual harassment or as discrimination based on race, religion, sexual identity, or disabilities. Bullies can be your boss, coworkers, teachers, coaches, boyfriends, or girlfriends—anyone who abuses his power or position.
It's sad to say, but...