- Do I tell my teen daughter that I'm checking her phone?
- My daughter suffers from test anxiety. What can I do to help her?
- Where's the line between healthy eating and having an eating disorder?
- My teenage daughter wants to know why I'm against pot when it's legal in some states. What should I say?
- My daughter's friend is cutting herself. Do I call the girl's mother to let her know? Perhaps most important, Untangled helps mothers and fathers understand, connect, and grow with their daughters. When parents know what makes their daughter tick, they can embrace and enjoy the challenge of raising a healthy, happy young woman. Praise for Untangled
"Finally, there's some good news for puzzled parents of adolescent girls, and psychologist Lisa Damour is the bearer of that happy news. Untangled] is the most down-to-earth, readable parenting book I've come across in a long time."--The Washington Post "Anna Freud wrote in 1958, 'There are few situations in life which are more difficult to cope with than an adolescent son or daughter during the attempt to liberate themselves.' In the intervening decades, the transition doesn't appear to have gotten any easier which makes Untangled such a welcome new resource."--The Boston Globe "Damour offers a hopeful, helpful new way for parents to talk about--and with--teenage girls. . . . Parents will want this book on their shelves, next to established classics of the genre."--Publishers Weekly "For years people have been asking me for the 'girl equivalent of Raising Cain, ' and I haven't known exactly what to recommend. Now I do."--Michael Thompson, Ph.D., co-author of Raising Cain "An essential guide to understanding and supporting girls throughout their development."--Rosalind Wiseman, author of Queen Bees & Wannabes
"A gem. From the moment I read the last page I've been recommending it to my clients (including those with sons ) and colleagues, and using it as a refreshing guide in my own work with teenagers and their parents."--Wendy Mogel, Ph.D., author of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee
- ISBN-13: 9780553393057
- ISBN-10: 0553393057
- Publisher: Ballantine Books
- Publish Date: February 2016
- Page Count: 352
- Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.8 x 1.1 inches
- Shipping Weight: 1 pounds
Publishers Weekly® Reviews
- Reviewed in: Publishers Weekly, page .
- Review Date: 2015-12-21
- Reviewer: Staff
Psychologist Damour begins this clear-sighted parenting guide with an epigraph from psychoanalyst Anna Freud: There are few situations in life which are more difficult to cope with than an adolescent son or daughter. In response, Damour offers a hopeful, helpful new way for parents to talk aboutand withteenage girls. Raising a teenage girl doesnt have to be the proverbial roller-coaster ride or feel like a tangled mess, she asserts. There is a predictable pattern to teenage development, and parents can learn how to understand and support their daughters. Damour identifies seven distinct, sequential strands, one per chapter, from middle school through high school: parting with childhood; joining a new tribe; harnessing emotions; contending with adult authority; planning for the future; entering the romantic world; and caring for herself. As Damour is careful to note, teens move along these strands at different rates. More descriptive than prescriptive, the volume is anecdote-driven, featuring entertaining, insightful stories drawn from the authors experience. At the end of each chapter is a section entitled When to Worry, addressing issues that may require professional consultation. Parents will want this book on their shelves, next to established classics of the genre. (Feb.)