{ "item_title" : "Emotional Dominance", "item_author" : [" Martin Clark "], "item_description" : "The man with the set jaw is not in control of his anger. He is obeying it.He has chosen concealment as his method of obedience, and concealment is the most expensive form there is.It has been measured. Holding an emotion in does not reduce it. It raises your physiological stress. It degrades your memory of the conversation you are having. And it raises the blood pressure of the person across from you, who cannot see what you are doing but whose body registers it anyway.That is not dominance. That is a man losing a fight quietly and calling the silence a victory.Real dominance is simpler and far harder: nothing moves you without your permission.Not that you feel less. Not that you show less. That the feeling arrives, delivers its report, and does not get a vote.THE FOUR LEVELSRuled. The emotion arrives and you act on it.Suppressed. You hold it in. This feels like control and is the great trap of the subject. Managed. You have tools, applied after it has already landed. Sovereign. Read on arrival, decision made separately, and the conditions arranged so fewer arrive at all.Almost every book on this subject drags people from the first level to the second and calls it strength. This one takes you to the fourth.INSIDEWhy you have been fighting at the wrong point, and where the leverage actually sitsHow your brain builds every emotion you have, in real time, from two ingredientsThe one permitted emotion in your childhood home, and what you have been converting everything else into ever sinceWhy some convictions cannot be argued with, and why thinking harder has never workedWhat your culture taught you about which feelings may be shownThe strategy almost everyone uses, and the evidence that it failsThe four-second move that changes which seat you are sitting inWhen to stop trying to control a feeling, because some of them are correctWhat anger, envy, shame, sadness and fear are each actually forThirty chapters. A closing Doctrine of twenty-two laws. A thirty-day plan, one item per week.This book will not tell you your parents ruined you, and it will not promise to make you feel good. Feeling good is a state, and states come and go regardless of your character. What is on offer is authority over your own conduct, which does not.You were taught how to feel. None of that was your decision.What happens from here is.Scroll up and click Buy Now.", "item_img_path" : "https://covers2.booksamillion.com/covers/bam/9/79/819/103/9798191034737_b.jpg", "price_data" : { "retail_price" : "11.99", "online_price" : "11.99", "our_price" : "11.99", "club_price" : "11.99", "savings_pct" : "0", "savings_amt" : "0.00", "club_savings_pct" : "0", "club_savings_amt" : "0.00", "discount_pct" : "10", "store_price" : "" } }

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