{ "item_title" : "Grieving the Unseen", "item_author" : [" Samuel Glover "], "item_description" : "Some losses never get a funeral.Your mother is alive and has not spoken to you in four years. The dog died and you are functioning worse than you did when your grandmother went, and you cannot say that out loud to anyone. The marriage you chose to end took an entire future with it. The baby had a name and never had a birthday. Nobody sent a card, so you filed the whole thing under not real grief and went back to work on Monday.It was real grief. It has a name. Psychologists call it disenfranchised grief - mourning that the people around you refuse to witness - and it runs longer and heavier than acknowledged loss for one reason. Grief needs a witness. Yours never got one.Grieving the Unseen is the witness. Fifteen chapters take the unspoken losses one at a time and explain, in plain language, why each one behaves the way it does: ambiguous loss and grief without closure, family estrangement and the strange work of mourning someone who is still alive, divorce and the end of a marriage nobody held a service for, job loss and the identity that walked out with it, the empty nest, the death of a pet and the guilt that comes with the decision you had to make, infertility, miscarriage and stillbirth, caregiving through dementia, losing your faith, and leaving the country that made you.You will learn why hope keeps regenerating against your better judgment when a loss has no ending. Why grief brain wipes your memory, flattens you into numbness, and wrecks your sleep and your appetite - and when it lifts. Why the third month is often worse than the first week. What anticipatory grief does to a dementia caregiver mourning a parent who is still in the room. What to say to the person who tells you everything happens for a reason. How to build a grief ritual for a loss that will never have a funeral, and why a ceremony you invent yourself creates real closure anyway.Written for adults carrying a loss the world scored as minor: adult children estranged from a parent, divorced men and women, dog and cat owners living with the guilt of the last decision, bereaved parents after pregnancy loss, caregivers, empty nesters, and anyone who has been told it was only a job, only a pet, only a breakup.Every chapter closes with an actionable step. Fifteen bereavement worksheets are gathered at the back with room to write, along with a resource directory organized by type of loss and an index that lets you open this book directly at the page describing what happened to you.This book will not rank your loss, hand you five tidy stages, or suggest that suffering was meant to improve you. Some losses are simply losses. What it will do is give you the language, the ritual, and the ending that nobody was ever going to hand you.Nobody sent flowers. It still counted.", "item_img_path" : "https://covers2.booksamillion.com/covers/bam/9/79/819/057/9798190573053_b.jpg", "price_data" : { "retail_price" : "14.99", "online_price" : "14.99", "our_price" : "14.99", "club_price" : "14.99", "savings_pct" : "0", "savings_amt" : "0.00", "club_savings_pct" : "0", "club_savings_amt" : "0.00", "discount_pct" : "10", "store_price" : "" } }

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