{ "item_title" : "Guarded", "item_author" : [" Maren Cole "], "item_description" : "You already know you are the avoidant one. Now what?You found the words - dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant - and they explained the cold mid-conversation, the relief at leaving the party, the Saturday morning you looked at the back of someone's head on the pillow and felt only the urge to be alone in your car. The diagnostic content is everywhere. The recovery is almost nowhere. Almost every book on avoidant attachment is written for the partners of avoidant people - how to date us, how to communicate with us, how to survive us. This is the book for the avoidant person herself.Guarded is the day-by-day, withdrawal-by-withdrawal field guide for the woman who has finally decided she would like to stop being this version of herself in love - and is ready to do the slow, unglamorous work of staying close without going numb.Across fourteen chapters and fourteen time-bounded Protocols, Maren Cole walks you through the guard (where avoidance came from, how it got built, the pattern of three, the body that closes), the cost (the partners you lost, the friendships that quietly stopped, the body you stopped inhabiting, the self you cannot quite find), and the practice (Five Seconds Longer, real-time naming, repair, softening the story, and the inner door).You'll discover: The Seven-Day Withdrawal Audit - a written log that names the exact temperature at which you go coldThe Origin Map - the 60-minute exercise that traces the guard back to its first useful dayThe Pattern of Three - the diagnostic that explains why every relationship ends at the same pointFive Seconds Longer - the behavioral protocol for staying in the room when every signal says leaveThe Real-Time Naming Script - a memorized conversation for the moment you feel yourself pulling awayThe Return Conversation - a four-step routine for coming back after a shutdown without performingThe Solitude vs Shutdown Audit - how to tell the difference between alone time you need and avoidance you are calling alone timeFor women who have read Attached, recognized themselves, and need the next book - the one that assumes you already know the framework and are finally ready for the somatic, behavioral, day-by-day work of becoming someone who can stay.For readers of Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, The Power of Attachment by Diane Poole Heller, and Polysecure by Jessica Fern.The guard kept you safe. It is no longer the only thing you have.Turn the page. The woman who can stay is closer than you think.", "item_img_path" : "https://covers3.booksamillion.com/covers/bam/9/79/819/069/9798190699210_b.jpg", "price_data" : { "retail_price" : "15.99", "online_price" : "15.99", "our_price" : "15.99", "club_price" : "15.99", "savings_pct" : "0", "savings_amt" : "0.00", "club_savings_pct" : "0", "club_savings_amt" : "0.00", "discount_pct" : "10", "store_price" : "" } }

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