The Parent You Strive to Be : How to Close the Gap Between Your Best Intentions and Your Hardest Parenting Moments
Overview
You know the kind of parent you want to be. The hard part is being that parent when you are tired, rushed, frustrated, or one more argument away from losing your patience.
You want to stay calm.
You want to listen before reacting.
You want to set boundaries without turning every disagreement into a battle.
Then real life happens.
The shoes still are not on. The screen needs to go off. Bedtime becomes a negotiation. Siblings are fighting. Your child talks back, melts down, refuses to listen, or pushes the exact button you were hoping nobody would touch today.
The Parent You Strive to Be is a practical guide for closing the gap between your best parenting intentions and the way you sometimes respond under pressure.
Instead of asking you to become endlessly patient or follow a perfect parenting script, this book gives you a realistic framework for handling difficult moments with more calm, clarity, connection, and confidence.
At the heart of the book is the STRIVE Method, six practical parenting moves you can use when emotions run high:
S - Steady Yourself before reacting
T - Tune In to what is really happening
R - Respond, Don't React
I - Invite Cooperation without giving up authority
V - Voice the Boundary and the Value clearly
E - End With Repair and Learning when things go wrong
Inside, you will learn how to:
- Recognize the triggers that change the way you parent under stress
- Stop repeating instructions until you are shouting
- Handle tantrums and meltdowns without adding more fuel
- Respond to back-talk, rudeness, and "I hate you" without taking every word personally
- Set screen limits without turning the end of screen time into a daily war
- Handle sibling conflict without immediately becoming judge and referee
- Make mornings and bedtimes less exhausting
- Set firm boundaries without relying on threats or shame
- Use consequences that teach instead of simply punish
- Build confidence without depending on constant praise
- Help your child through frustration without rescuing too quickly
- Respond to lying and avoidance in ways that make honesty easier
- Support sensitive or worried children without trying to remove every uncomfortable feeling
- Turn parenting guilt into useful responsibility
- Repair after yelling, overreacting, or getting the moment wrong
- Build a family culture your children can feel, not just rules they are expected to memorize
You will also get the practical STRIVE Toolkit, including:
- The 10-Second STRIVE Reset
- Five questions to ask yourself before responding
- Calmer alternatives for ten common parenting moments
- The Feeling + Limit + Next Step boundary formula
- The Own + Acknowledge + Reconnect + Try Again repair formula
- A parenting values exercise
- A personal trigger map
- A Hard-Moment Plan
- A seven-day STRIVE practice
- 21 small ways to become the parent you strive to be
This is not a book about raising children who never get upset, argue, resist, or make mistakes.
And it is not a book about parents getting everything right.
It is about becoming more intentional in the moments that matter, recovering faster when things go wrong, and creating a home where boundaries and connection can exist at the same time.
You do not need a perfect response. You need a better next move.
If you are ready to parent with more calm, clearer boundaries, stronger connection, and less regret after the hard moments, The Parent You Strive to Be will show you where to begin.
Start today, one moment at a time.
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Details
- ISBN-13: 9798194757084
- ISBN-10: 9798194757084
- Publisher: Independently Published
- Publish Date: August 2026
- Dimensions: 9 x 6 x 0.34 inches
- Shipping Weight: 0.49 pounds
- Page Count: 160
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