{ "item_title" : "I Don't Want to Be Like You, Father", "item_author" : [" Kit Mann "], "item_description" : "I Don't Want to Be Like You, Father. explores that difficult space between what happened to you and the man you ultimately choose to become. It is a book about childhood abuse, emotional neglect, anger, unhealthy patterns, masculinity, relationships, fatherhood, accountability, and the process of breaking generational cycles.Many men grow up making a quiet promise to themselves: I will never become like my father. They remember the anger, the criticism, the intimidation, the emotional distance, the humiliation, or the silence. They remember what it felt like to live around someone who was supposed to make them feel safe but instead made them feel afraid, inadequate, or invisible. And they carry that experience into adulthood, determined to become something different.But breaking a cycle is more complicated than simply rejecting the person who created it. The behaviors we witness during childhood can become deeply embedded in the way we understand masculinity, relationships, conflict, anger, vulnerability, authority, and even love. Sometimes, without realizing it, we begin repeating the very patterns we once promised ourselves we would never repeat.This book is written for men who grew up with fathers who were abusive, controlling, emotionally unavailable, unpredictable, critical, neglectful, or simply incapable of providing the emotional safety a child needs. It is also for men who may not have experienced obvious abuse but still grew up carrying wounds from a father who was absent, distant, dismissive, or unable to show affection and vulnerability.The effects of those experiences do not always remain in childhood. They can appear years later in the way a man responds to criticism, handles conflict, expresses anger, trusts other people, communicates with a partner, responds to rejection, or reacts when he feels powerless. A man may become controlling because control once made him feel safe. He may become emotionally unavailable because vulnerability was never modeled for him. He may suppress sadness until it eventually emerges as anger. He may become fiercely independent because depending on someone once meant getting hurt.Throughout fifteen chapters, this book takes a deep look at the psychological and emotional patterns that can be passed from one generation to another. It explores the anger men inherit, the younger version of themselves they may still carry, the beliefs about masculinity they learned during childhood, and the ways unresolved experiences can influence romantic relationships and future fatherhood. It also examines the difficult distinction between forgiveness and reconciliation, showing why healing does not require minimizing what happened or restoring a relationship that remains harmful.For men who become fathers, the challenge becomes even more important. You may find yourself wondering how to discipline a child without frightening them, how to express affection when you were rarely shown affection yourself, how to apologize without feeling weak, and how to create a home that feels fundamentally different from the one you grew up in. But even if you never become a father, the same work applies to the way you treat partners, friends, family members, coworkers, and yourself.Breaking a generational cycle does not require becoming a perfect man. It requires becoming an aware one. It requires recognizing the moments when an old pattern is taking control and having the courage to choose a different response. Sometimes that choice will be difficult, and sometimes you will fail. The important question is what you do after you fail: whether you defend the behavior, repeat it, or take responsibility and begin again.You are not destined to become the man who hurt you. You can become the man you choose to be.", "item_img_path" : "https://covers2.booksamillion.com/covers/bam/9/79/819/191/9798191914633_b.jpg", "price_data" : { "retail_price" : "7.99", "online_price" : "7.99", "our_price" : "7.99", "club_price" : "7.99", "savings_pct" : "0", "savings_amt" : "0.00", "club_savings_pct" : "0", "club_savings_amt" : "0.00", "discount_pct" : "10", "store_price" : "" } }

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